philosophie.

sensuality

I told one of my girlfriends that I take tango lessons now, and she was so convinced that I go there “to pick up men”.

I tell her that I prefer it when I am dancing with someone, he would just dance and not talk non-stop. Because I’d like to feel what he wants with his body, not his words. Then, my friend rolls her eyes at me and gives out smirk.

Why?

It had lead me to realize that our society now lacks so much beautiful in mystery, elegance and grace. Everything seems to be about the most downright blatant sex. Sex, sex, sex. You tell someone you go take tango lessons, they think you go there to find people to have sex with. You tell someone you go see a movie with a friend from the opposite sex, they think that’s the person you are going to have sex with. You tell someone you go grocery shopping, they think you are going to find someone to have sex with, for crying out loud.

You go clubbing, your eyes catch another human body which you define as “sexy”, and you have sex with him/her to satisfy your “basic instinct”. Is it just me or it sounds much like grocery shopping? You pick up the red, supple, round apple and you go home and eat it and enjoy it for a while, then it’s gone. That’s it.

And it seems like this is the “norm” in our society. But really, our society has such bad taste.

I think anything has to do directly with sex is not sexy at all. Like, sex itself. Like, a pair of revealing, protruding breasts, or a behind that is bound so tightly in a pair of tights walking around on the street. But something that hides, but at the same time so subtle and quiet, that leads the thoughts and the interest of exploring more – more of the infinity of beauty, perhaps? – something that doesn’t (necessarily) lead to sex but lures and calls out to you and enchants. That is sexy.

Sometimes I find myself devoured by this sensuality. In this sensuality you really come to appreciate a person’s beauty (partially anyway, for I’m not advocating beauty by pure physical appearance or action, of course), be it a man or woman. – which is why I enjoy tango so much.